I turned down a client last week (here's why)

I turned down a client last week.

She wanted to work with me. She was suffering from chronic pain. She was desperate for relief. But within the first few minutes of our conversation, I knew we weren't a match.

Here's why: when we started digging into the root cause of her pain, she shut down and she got defensive. 

She wanted a "quick fix": a protocol, a healing treatment, some quick mindset shifts she could do to make it go away.

What we uncovered? 

She'd been experiencing severe reproductive health issues ever since she first got her period at 11 years old and she'd been on birth control since she was in her early teens.

She actually told me there was NO other way with endo and I wouldn't understand... which is BS because my gynaecologist has told me she's 99% certain I also had endometriosis.

I say HAD... because I'm in the process of healing it energetically. That means no drugs, no surgeries. Most months, it's just a bit of fatigue. I rarely need medication anymore and when I do have pain, it's usually because I'm in the midst of massive emotional change and upheaval.)

And right around that same time that she started experiencing such intense pain as an early teen? A traumatic incident happened that she barely wanted to acknowledge on the call with me... she brushed it off and told it was 'ages ago' so it didn't matter.

Her body was literally screaming at her for help. Even though she was hesitant, she came to me because she wanted to explore her options...

And she wanted me to help her silence it.

But here's what the mainstream wellness industry won't tell you:

Your unprocessed trauma doesn't just live in your mind. It lives in your body.

That traumatic incident she brushed off as "ages ago"? Her body remembered. Her womb remembered. Her nervous system never forgot.

And every month, her body was trying to tell her: "We're not safe. We haven't processed what happened. We're still carrying it."

→You're not irresponsible because you've called in sick to work more times this year than you can count: your body is in survival mode.

→You're not being difficult for refusing to take the pill "just to regulate your cycle" when it made you feel dead inside last time: your body is trying to FEEL so it can heal.

→You're not pathetic because you need to rest after doing things that seem effortless for everyone else: your nervous system is carrying weight others can't see.

→You're not "overly sensitive" because conflict makes your nervous system spiral for days: unresolved trauma makes everything feel like a threat.

Your body is literally shutting down because you've been running it like a machine on a 24-hour cycle you were never designed for, while simultaneously asking it to carry emotional weight you've never fully processed.

When you're stressed, living in constant fight-or-flight, pushing through exhaustion like it's a badge of honour, ignoring your emotions and intuition, suppressing trauma you think should be "over by now"... you wanna know the FIRST thing your body sacrifices?

Your reproductive system.

Painful cycles. Hormonal chaos. Zero libido.

Complete disconnection from pleasure.

This isn't coincidence. This is your body's way of saying: "I can't create new life literal or metaphorical when I'm still stuck processing the old pain."

And in one of the most alarming statistics I've ever seen:

Over 80% of women now experience menstrual cycle problems.

EIGHTY PERCENT.

This isn't normal.

This is your body screaming that the way you're living is killing your life force.

Your physical symptoms are never just random.

They're never just your body "betraying" you or trying to piss you off.

They're just a cry for help.

Your pain is your body's way of saying: "Something is not right here. Your emotional body, your energetic body, your spiritual body, and your physical body are not on the same page."

And here's what they really won't tell you: your womb isn't just about making babies.

Your sacral chakra (your reproductive centre) is where ALL your creative energy lives. Your vision. Your magnetism. Your power. Your ability to birth ANYTHING into existence.

When you're setting the same 5am alarm regardless of where you are in your cycle, ignoring the exhaustion that hits you like a truck right before your period, powering through high-intensity workouts when your body is begging you to slow down, expecting yourself to show up the same way every single day like testosterone resets each night (spoiler: your hormones don't)...

You're literally severing yourself from your feminine power.

You can't biohack your way out of a dysregulated nervous system.

You can't optimise your way back to feeling alive.

And when you ignore that? When you suppress it with birth control, medication, positive affirmations, or just "pushing through"?

You're not healing. You're just getting really good at numbing.

This is why I don't work with just anybody.

I work with women who are ready to get to the root cause of their problems. Not just manage symptoms. Not just "cope better."

I work with women who are willing to feel everything their body has been trying to tell them (the pain, the grief, the rage, the fear) so they can finally process it and let it go.

This isn't talk therapy. This is energetic healing. Somatic work. Nervous system regulation at the deepest level.

You don't even have to consciously know what all your traumas are. But you DO have to be willing to heal them.

And here's the uncomfortable part that makes people squirm:

You have to be willing to let go of the identity that's keeping you stuck.

The identity of the "sick girl." The "burnt out woman." The "anxious overthinker." The one who's "tried everything and nothing works."

Because here's the truth: part of you is getting something out of staying sick. Staying small. Staying stuck.

Maybe it's the excuse not to go after what you really want.

Maybe it's the permission to rest without guilt.

Maybe it's the way people finally pay attention to you when you're struggling.

I'm not saying this to be cruel. I'm saying this because I see you.

If you're living on a masculine schedule, suppressing your cycle like it's an inconvenience, taking birth control to "manage" symptoms instead of listening to what your body is telling you, and wondering why you feel flat, numb, and disconnected...

You're not living out of alignment with "productivity."

You're living out of alignment with your BODY.

Your SOUL. Your feminine essence.

And if you're reading this and feeling called out?

Good. That's your soul recognising the truth.

I work with women who are DONE.

❌ Done trying to fix themselves on their own.

❌ Done going in circles with the same patterns, the same self-sabotage.

❌ Done pretending they don't need help pointing out the blind spots they can no longer see.

This is why nervous system regulation isn't some nice-to-have "self-care" practice. It's always my step ONE.

Your body is your anchor to this world. When it doesn't feel safe, your mind stays in survival mode. Your intuition goes silent. Your creativity flatlines. Your soul checks out.

But when your nervous system finally relaxes?

When your body remembers it's safe to be HERE?

THAT'S when your intuition roars back to life. Your emotions become rocket fuel. Your imagination explodes. Your soul remembers what ALIVE actually feels like.

That's when you become magnetic. Confident. Powerful.

Not because you hustled through one more morning routine. Because you finally stopped betraying your body and came home to yourself.

I help women:

• Regulate their nervous system so their body finally feels safe enough to heal

• Reconnect with their feminine energy—their intuition, their creativity, their life force

• Realign their entire life so that the outside finally matches how they want to feel on the inside: successful, confident, magnetic, embodied in sensuality and pleasure

But I can only do that with women who are ready to stop performing healing and actually do it.

So...

• If you're still trying to "fix" your symptoms without addressing the energetic and emotional root cause…

• If you're still medicating, suppressing, numbing, and wondering why nothing's working…

• If you're not ready to feel the uncomfortable emotions your body has been storing for years…

Then this work isn't for you. Not yet anyway.

But...

• If you're done with band-aid solutions?

• If you're ready to finally get out of survival mode and into your full, embodied, alive feminine power?

• If you're ready to stop betraying your body and come home to yourself?

Then we need to talk.

But I'm warning you: this work will ask you to feel everything you've been avoiding.

And not everyone is brave enough for that.

Are you? 

Haley xx