You Get to Have It All—But Not If You Believe These 5 Myths

After five weeks down in Tasmania let me tell you—this trip changed me.

Not in the cliché, “I found myself” kind of way, but in the "holy sh*t, I’ve never felt more confident, free, and fully ME" kind of way. I've also never gotten more compliments about my glow up than I have in those 5 weeks 😏

Something clicked while I was there. I embodied a version of myself that I didn’t even realize I had been blocking for so long. And it wasn’t about doing more, hustling harder, or becoming “better”. It was about unlearning.

I had to dismantle five major myths about being a woman fully tapped into her power—myths that were keeping me from feeling truly radiant, deeply intuitive, and in control of my own energy.

And, babe?

These myths are probably keeping YOU stuck too.

Let’s break them down:

Myth #1: Feminine energy = weak & passive

For so long, I believed that if I embraced my feminine energy, I’d be less powerful. That femininity was about submission or taking a backseat. But this is a distortion rooted in historical conditioning, not truth.

Studies on heart-brain coherence show that intuition and emotional intelligence—both key aspects of feminine energy—are stronger predictors of success than IQ alone. The world’s best leaders aren’t just strategic; they’re deeply in tune with non-verbal communication, emotional nuance, and energetic presence.

True feminine power isn’t passive. It’s receptive, magnetic, and intuitive—it’s the ability to move mountains without force. Think about the ocean: soft and fluid, but undeniably powerful. That’s feminine energy.

Myth #2: You have to choose between success and softness

We’ve been taught that we can either be powerful and successful OR soft and in flow—but not both. The truth? Your feminine energy is your greatest success hack when you know how to balance it with your masculine drive. (This is exactly what I teach in my Power & Polarity Method.)

I grew up with the belief that hard work = success.

But we all knowww this isn't necessarily the truth: how many people do you know who work so f*cking hard, and yet they're still always feeling exhausted and left behind? This trip I promised myself that I would really embody the version of me who believed that I deserved to rest, relax, and enjoy 'nothing time' just because I am here living in this moment... not because I'd done all of the jobs and had earned it.

And you know what? It made 'the work' so much easier to do because I was approaching it from a softer, calmer, confident state of mind instead of a frantic, must-get-this-done energy. And I've had my highest cash month as a coach too... not bad ey? 😉

Myth #3: Living intuitively means being “woo-woo” and unrealistic

No, babe. It means being so deeply connected to yourself that your decisions become effortless. No more second-guessing, overthinking, or looking outside yourself for answers.

You make up to 35,000 decisions a day... no wonder your brain feels tired after a long day. Imagine if you could just know intuitively which decision is the right one without even having to think about it, and how much energy that would free up for more important things like loving on yourself, your husband or even your job?

When you connect with your intuition, you'll just inherently know what this best choice is for you... every time.

Myth #4: You have to be “chill” to be feminine

For years, I thought I had to be low-maintenance, easygoing, and agreeable to be in my feminine. That I had to suppress my passion, my opinions, and my intensity. But this belief is rooted in the "good girl conditioning" society feeds us from birth.

Neuroscience tells us that women are wired for deep emotional intelligence and expression—our prefrontal cortex (responsible for intuition and decision-making) is actually more active than in men. Holding back your emotions or dulling your desires doesn’t make you more feminine; it makes you disconnected from your own power.

True femininity is expressive, wild, and deeply felt. When you own your emotions, desires, and standards, you become irresistible—not just to others, but to the life you want to create.

Myth #5: Feminine energy means giving up control

I used to think surrendering to my feminine energy meant I had to give up control—that I’d be floating around, waiting for life to happen. But I was completely missing the point.

The real difference? Control vs. influence.

Trying to control everything around you (your relationships, your success, how others perceive you) comes from fear and scarcity—a root cause belief that you are not safe unless you micromanage your reality. This puts you in a hyper-masculine, anxious energy that repels ease, joy, and true power.

Feminine mastery is about influence, not control. It’s about cultivating such a strong inner world that the external naturally shifts in response. When you embody this, you effortlessly attract better opportunities, deeper love, and more abundance—without forcing it.

This shift? It’s why I came back from Tasmania feeling like I have it all—deep fulfilment, ease, clarity, and a confidence that doesn’t fade.

I've been travelling for 12 months now, and this is truly the first time that I can say that I've felt deeply and truly confident in who I am and what I want from life. And the thing is, everyone else is noticing it too... I'm getting doors held open for me, random strangers helping me out, and compliments nearly every day about much I'm glowing!

And I want that for you too.

Inside my 12 week 1:1 coaching container, I’ll teach you my Power & Polarity Method, designed to help you step into this exact kind of alignment—where you’re successful without burnout, radiant without forcing it, and magnetic without playing small.

You don’t have to choose between success and softness.

You get to have it all.

Haley 🤍